From who covers the cost of the hen party to the dress code; there are some rules that ALL ladies in attendance of a hens party deem necessary. Yes, everyone is there to have a good time and the goal is to make sure that everyone does. No matter what the night entails there are a few golden rules that make up the hen party etiquette that everyone should always follow.

Don’t be a diva

The day is about the bride and her happiness. The bride is going to be nervous about her big day and she is looking to her family and friends to help her relax and have a good time. Taking the focus off the bride is an absolute no, no.

The bride doesn’t pay

If you throw a party for someone you don’t normally ask them to buy their own cake or buy their own present. The bride shouldn’t be required to pay anything. If you plan ahead you can gather funds together from all of the bride’s family and friends. One person can act as treasurer or plan ahead on how the final bill will be divided up between everyone.

What happens at the party stays at the party

Everyone will take pictures of the bride during the night’s events, but without the brides blessing the pictures shouldn’t be shared on social media. If you want to create a scrapbook or the bride by all means make one, but clear all pictures with the bride before posting them to social medial. Designate someone to pass the word along to anyone that takes a compromising photo.

Dress appropriately

Make sure all the guests  know what type of evening you have planned beforehand so that guest can dress appropriately. If you are spending the day at a day spa, this gives your guest the leisure to wear something comfortable versus a party dress. The worst feeling in the world is to be invited somewhere and you are dress in appropriately.

Don’t drink and drive

Drinking responsibly is important. It is no one’s responsibility to govern your drinking habits. No one at the hens party should have to drive you home if you are too drunk to drive. If the hen party is on the night before the wedding you also need to make sure you are at your best for the next day. If you wake up with a hangover you won’t be at your best for the wedding the next day.

Don’t bad mouth the groom

If your plan is to declare to the bride she is making a mistake, the hens night is the wrong place to do so. Anyone that is going to upset the bride should not be invited. If they want to know where the hens party is going to be politely deflect and then tell them later you just had a small get together with intimate friends. Bad mouthing the groom is a definite no, no for anyone at the hens party including close family. Speak with the bride about guests she may feel uncomfortable around and find out from her how she wants things handled if things get out of control.